How to Wait Until You Meet THE ONE

So, all your friends are married and you're thinking, OMG, they are so lucky! 

You’re lucky, too because you still have time to play. Yet, it could be that you don't want to play. Maybe, you’re older; you’re thinking it’s never going to happen for me.  All the good men are gone. 

Bullocks! That’s not true at all. You just haven’t found any good men OR you keep choosing the same wrong men.

If your goal is to find the right one or ones (plural, for those that aren’t into monogamy), what are you doing about it?  

Belief affects what you think is possible. 

If you're regularly complaining that all the good men are gay, married, or emotionally unavailable, then that's what you're going to get.

It’s about attitude.   You can start with 'Hey, I am chill, I am chill because I got this. I am good just like I am. I look good. I smell good. Mmm, I even taste good.

Take this as an opportunity to get married to YOURSELF.

Make yourself THE ONE.

Take a sabbatical from job of finding THE ONE.  Gee, you might even find THE ONE when you stop looking for THE ONE.

Here is a template.  (This works best if you actually DO it versus using it as a mental exercise.)

• When are you going to have the ceremony?
• Where will it be held?
• Who will be there?  (It might be too weird to invite people to a Me-to-Me wedding, but you can have an after party. No one needs to know why you are having it.)
• What kind of ring are you going to wear?
• What are the vows going to be?
• What do you want to celebrate about you?

The most important question is...
What are your goals for your relationship and how will you achieve them?

This idea might seem bizarre, but so was the airplane, telephone, the Internet and the iPod.

If it works for you, who cares?  

See Tracy McMillian’s TEDx talk, “The Person You Really Need To Marry.”