Mating in Captivity is a hot, hot book! I had to fan myself a couple of times while
reading it. Not because there were any explicit sex scenes but
because her ideas were so fresh and
daring. It gave me chills, I tell
you!
I stumbled onto Esther Perel during a YouTube TED Talk
binge. After listening to her lecture for California Southern University, I had to know
more. Thank God for libraries!
It is almost a given that sexual desire will decrease the
longer a couple is together, even in warm and loving relationships. Research attributes this the effect of repeated exposure. What if
it weren’t that simple? What if there
were another dynamic at play? What if
love and passion were, for some couples, inversely proportional?
Every couple of years I take a week to look at my own life to reassess what is working and what isn’t. I then compare what I am doing to what I say that I want do. Sometimes the comparison highlights the areas that need adjustment. This time I have traced where I am back to the relationships that I created. I use the word created because relationships don’t just happen for me. Of course, there is conscious creation and unconscious creation.
One key to developing a successful relationship with another person is
maintaining a good relationship with your own pursuits. Lizzy’s attraction to the NFL was ignited during the Super
Bowl XXXVIII party. You know, the year Janet Jackson had a costume
malfunction.
During the party, she participated in the football
pool and won 2 out 4 squares. Pretty good for a novice! Between
the excitement of the party plus winning the squares, she was hooked.
